What's the meaning behind your new tattoo Bri?
Well, all meaning aside, it’s a matching tattoo I got with my best friend. She’s wanted a gun for awhile & I didn’t have anything against it lol.
I mean, it’s on the same side as my quote, so to me, it kinda goes along with that. It’s about having control of things. My gun, my trigger. Kinda about having strength too. I know that I have all of the parts in me to create a “bullet” but just because I have the “bullet” doesn’t mean I have to give in to that. I have a choice in things, even if I have a biological predisposition for depression or even a psychological vulnerability for it.
I’m not sure if I explained that well, lol. I haven’t had to explain it yet.
there’s a difference between someone that’s protective over what’s theirs & someone that’s just insecure/distrustful. some of y’all sitting here saying you’re just protective over what’s yours when really you’re afraid someone’s gonna take it away.
i’m just tired of people settling for shit.
don’t say “well, this is just how it is.”
it doesn’t have to be.
don’t fucking settle.
it just really bothers me that a lot of people have turned relationships into investments.
"i’ve been with them for x amount of time so i’m gonna make it work even if i’m unhappy because i already put in the hours."
if it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work, & staying in it won’t change that.
i feel like so many people are just at a standstill in their relationships & they think that’s normal.
i feel like so many people are sitting with their significant other, doing what they always do, being how they always are - not really growing any.
i feel like so many people are just in relationships that aren’t even really enjoyable anymore, but now they feel obligatory.
and i feel like all of that just isn’t okay.
it’s not what relationships should be about or like.
if someone opens up to you, don’t brush it off. if someone tells you “hey, this is what’s wrong & I’m sorry,” don’t ignore it. if you care about someone, act like it & understand that someone opening up to you is difficult, especially when it made lead to rejection.
just tell it like it is. be honest. and don’t avoid shit.
i mean, i’m not discouraging anyone from trying.
for the love of everything holy i don’t believe in, please DO try.
but also realize when you’ve done enough,
when you’ve put in enough,
when you know that you can walk away from a situation knowing you said and did all that you could think of to make it work.
if you don’t identify that point, you’re no longer trying, you’re giving to someone that clearly has no intentions of reciprocating the gesture.
and the more you give, the more you lose.
and you should never have to lose any of yourself for another person.
just because you have feelings for someone doesn’t mean that you have to deal with their shit.
i always forget that.
i forgot it back in the day.
i almost forgot it today.
but nah, fuck that.
you deserve someone that gives a shit.
& if the person you have feelings for doesn’t seem to be that someone, then on to the next one.
so, i was talking to my mom earlier about body counts (don’t ask why) & she was basically saying that males use those numbers to decide a woman’s value or whatever so when you have a high body count, you lower your value. now, my mom doesn’t know this, but my body count ain’t exactly low, but beyond that, i had some objections.
all that being said: fellas (& ladies too), never ask a question you don’t know you want the answer to. and if it means that much to you, and it’s not ridiculously high (i’m talking HIGH) you’re childish.
the body count question is just foolish to me, honestly. i would never ask a man i’m involved with his, and i’d hope he didn’t feel it was necessary to know mine. as long as you didn’t catch anything from any previous partners, your past is your past, so i just fail to comprehend how someone can place so much value on something that is ultimately so minuscule when it comes to who that person is.